What makes some people achieve much more than others who have similar opportunities? I make the argument that the single biggest factor towards success is (attitude). How many times have you succeeded when in your mind you thought it was not possible. The common answer is none. Think of the people in your life who are doing well and the ones who are truly struggling (not just financially). Listen to someone who is down on their luck. I mean really listen to their tone, connotation, lack of accountability and overall message. Pay attention and you will see people keeping themselves down. I have a friend who would sing to himself every morning "I am the greatest" over and over again. Guess what? He is a successful lawyer with his own firm. This may be an extreme example but it is an example.
From my favorite book (How to Win Friends & Influence People) Dale Carnegie, lesson #1 in dealing with people, this should also apply to ourselves.
"Never Criticize, Condemn, or Complain" After years of criticizing and ridiculing people Lincoln was challenged to a duel. Yes the kind where you kill or be killed. Fortunately at the last minute people from both camps stopped the duel. This was his most lurid personal incident and he never forgot it. From this point on Lincoln never ridiculed another man. He also did not criticize his fellow man. We can all learn a lesson from Lincoln. Think of a way to get a point across or change ones mind, without condemning or criticizing them.
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